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Self-Care and Mental Maintenance: Building your house right

Yay With MeSeptember 18, 2019self-care, how to live a happy life, depression, how to manage triggers, how to treat depression and anxiety, managing emotions, feeling like a failure, feeling like a fraud, feeling like a loser, how to know if you are a success

Inner Unworthiness & Self-Judgment

Podcast, BlogYay With MeAugust 6, 2018feeling like a fraud, inner unworthiness, self-judgment, low confidence, insecurity, depression

Feeling like a Fraud: When you have the voice in your head that tells you you’re not good enough and you have no idea what you’re doing.

Are you guided by a belief that something is wrong with you? That you’re not good enough, and that you can barely keep people fooled about the fact that you’re smart. Maybe you constantly seek out the likeness of someone worthy but always seem to feel just as worthless as before: you’re never thin enough, you’re not as successful as you’d like to be, or maybe you’re living a life that you KNOW you don’t want but you’re too afraid to do anything about it because it’s going to show the world that you’re a weak and shameful loser. So it’s better to just stay safe, and protected in the lie. Even though you feel suffocated and stifled by this life. Well if this sounds like you then you’re in good company – this is a universal human trait: to feel that we’re not good enough. And that’s because so much of the self is defined by things we learn from others. The brain we use to drive and make money is also the brain that computes risk based on a very specific structure we’ve built via our life experiences. So it’s natural to have grown up with a set of beliefs that are – to say the least – not in favor of your confidence and self-love.